About external affirmation, mercy and how I want to do things

At the time of my last post, I had an healthier perspective on social media than before but something still didn’t feel right. Not only about social media, but about more.

I thought a lot about the craving for affirmation and appreciation by others for myseld. Not only regarding social media but regarding me as a whole. I believe that because of our genes as a highly social species, we just want to appeal to others and being liked. One lonely human without it’s herd is just not that strong against all the sabre-toothed tigers etc. and because of this we have to make sure not to be alone. But things have changed a lot since the times of these sabre-toothed friends and it’s not about survival anymore (for most of the times). In the last weeks I just recognized, why I’m feeling pushed and stressed when I’m doing things: it’s mainly because I want to make it good so that others like it. Not all the time, but it seems to be oscillating more or less around what I’m doing. And if it’s not so present, I’m very easy in some kind of an flow regardless what I’m actually doing and this feeling is the best for me.

Regarding the documentation of my journey, the beautiful photos and pictures, my thoughts and feelings: I will just do it the way I want to do it in the moment I’m doing it and not think much about what others will think about it.

What is more my internet roaming doesn’t work anymore after being EU foreign countries for four months and because of that I’ve to use local sim cards and with my Greek sim card, I can’t publish reels on Instagram anymore because this feature and Instagram music are not available in all countries. Right now I don’t want to use an vpn tool for this reason only. So my favourite feature is not available anymore to me. That made me think again about being controlled, helpless and being at the mercy of these big social media platforms when using their tools. And I came to the same conclusion as last year: I don’t want to be completely dependent from these platforms. There will never be full control over stuff I’m having in the internet, but I just want a bit of it.

Because of that and because I want to write more and longer texts, I’ll post some more on this blog again, I think.

Writing this post had been really much fun and it felt free and just right. I’m loving it.

The photo just shows one of these wonderful dancing and ever changing clouds and I thought it just fits to this post.

Friends and another way of overlanding on Corfu in Greece

I made my way to Corfu to visit Natalia a friend from the time where I have been studying in Magdeburg, Germany. We haven‘t seen each other for about 20 years and barely had contact at all. But when I saw that she just moved to Corfu with her boyfriend Petrus, I thought visiting her would be fun. It was kind of funny to meet after such a long time and we had a great time.

I lernt a lot about Corfu and Greece and met other friends of Natalia and Petrus. We went for dinner, in a bar, around Corfu town and had a dinner at Ines place. Ines is a friend of Natalia and Petrus that has three dogs and about seven to twenty cats (twenty because two of the cats a pregnant).

Corfu town is really beautiful and the small streets are like a labyrinth. Even with a postal address, I can’t find places there. The only way to find places for me is via Google Maps markers. And the locals go that way, too. It’s quite a miracle that the package that Thomas (a friend from Germany) send for me to Natalia arrived. In the package there was the new drone from DJI and a 360 degree action cam.

Overlanding is different on Corfu because as an island it’s more compact. I think in the summer season it will become really crowded with tourists everywhere. And on Corfu you really never know what happens if you go for remote beaches! One time I got lost in an olive farm and the other time I did some of the most difficult offroading so far when it comes to stone steps. In Corfu there are a lot of beautiful places and definitely recommend going there.

The best overlanding and so many nice people in Albania

Albania was the first country where I could really overland! Going these offroad routes, finding a place to stay and live there for a while feels just incredible good to me! And in Albania there seems to be the room and the freedoms to do right that. And if you are more into lonely beaches, you will find them there as well. Because I described that a lot, I will focus on something else in this post.

In addition to the great overlanding, the people in Albania are so nice, helpful, friendly and interested in what you are doing, it’s just super cool!

For example I met Ayse @aysiji and Carsten @nykzynh, two lovely and warmhearted backpackers from Germany, on a small beach. To go to the beach, you have to walk 20 minutes a very hard offroad track. The stone steps were so big, that I didn’t want to go down there with Rosinante. Once you got down there, you had to deal with some crazy barking guard dogs going around you and once you managed that, there is a small restaurant, a small campsite, a bar and of course the beach and the ocean. Because of the winter off season, the campsite and the bar were closed and in the small restaurant you could only buy beer and some basics. When the two nice backpackers from Germany got there, they just set up there hammocks in the closed bar because it was closed, really run down but perfect for there needs. At some point they heard someone coming and were thinking that they had to leave this little paradise they found. I have my prejudices what would happen if the owner of a bar notices that you camp in his beach bar in Germany. Here it was totally different: the owners of the bar and campsite just welcomed them, talked to them and from there on they provided food to them for free, came around to talk a bit and provided them with a free place to shower and of course they let them stay in their beach bar. Isn’t that wonderful?

Aishe had some Pois with here and she let me try them and gave me lot of tips how to handle them. I quickly got into doing some basic stuff and for the first time in my life, I was spinning around burning Pois and had a lot of fun doing so. Later that night the campsite owners came along and we had some cool fire show.

Another example is how I met the owner of the Garden Restaurant: I had to buy some groceries and parked in front of a small super market in a little town. After a while Albanians came around and as always the friendly asked things and started a conversation. So met four people and one of those were the owner of the Garden Restaurant located just five minutes from the super market. He told me that he knows a lot offroad routes and if I want, I could check his restaurant and he will tell me about the routes. So I just went there, had some super delicious food in that beautiful restaurant where you get only organic/ bio food and learnt a lot about offroad routes, Albania, the culture and history of Albania and just had a great time.

These are just two examples of so many! If I will be around Albania again, I will definitely go there.

I’m very grateful for all these nice places, conversations and everything. I feel like my perspective on foreign people, foreign countries and what the interacting with others is about, is changing. It’s hard to describe. Maybe I can describe it better in sometime in the future. All I can say right now is, that it feels fantastic to me.